How to Not Lose Yourself In Your 20's

At this point in your life, you are just trying to get yourself established. You’re probably post graduation right now or trying tirelessly to break into the workforce. You’re probably already working and it’s dark outside when you leave out and dark outside when you come back. Things can get monotonous and it is very easy to lose yourself in this phase of your life with so many obligations tugging at you, whilst putting so much energy into faith that things will fall into place nicely. For the time being, here are some less demanding things you can intertwine into your life that will add to your growth, and also give you solace.

 Find a hobby

It is so important that you find a least a little bit of fun and joy. There are hobbies that won’t cost you a dime and there are hobbies that are worth the investment. I absolutely love to write and my pen makes me feel free. You can take a crack at this blogging life or train for a marathon, bake, make an Instagram page of your favorite things and build a following of people who enjoy the same. Join a facebook group, learn how to sew, edit, or learn how to make your own beauty products. The possibilities are endless on what you can do. Just do something that takes your mind off of your obligations for at least an hour. You need balance.

Watch Interviews and Listen to Speeches

Find people who have the things that you want and listen to their journey. You will find gems that are conducive towards you and you can apply that information to your life. You can also learn from their mistakes so that you can avoid making the same ones or if you do make them, you can reference their story on how they climbed out. Always feed your mind. Work smarter instead of harder. There are always better ways to do things. Sometimes work ethic isn’t your issue, it’s a lack of information.

Read

Dive into someone else’s life for a second. Reading is one of the best ways to vividly look at the world from a different set of eyes. You don’t have visuals there creating the experience for you like television does. It’s your mind’s job to paint the picture and that requires focus. A book is a cheap vacation. It also aids in growth.

Learn a New Language

The world is just too big to only know one language. At least learn the basics of anther language. Being bi-lingual provides more opportunities and advantages. Add to your value.

Set Aside Me Time

I talk about this a lot but you need time to recharge. You have a lot of things riding on you and you need some time to breathe. Whether it’s a nice, hot, long, bath or binge watching a few episodes of a good show with some snacks, you need some time for yourself where no one or nothing is demanding your time and energy.

Eat Healthier and Exercise

Your 20’s can be very stressful so it’s important that you take care of your body. Stress takes a toll on your body and immune system but fortunately, there are nutrient-dense foods that have benefits to assist that. Exercise also improves brain activity and relieves stress. You’ll be thinking more clearly and you’ll be more energized, which helps tackle your day.

Let Go of Relationships That No Longer Serve You

You have enough responsibility as is. You do not have time and energy to donate to someone who does not find importance in loving you properly. It is draining to stay on top of someone about the fundamental things that are imperative to having a healthy relationship. There is literally no point of constantly repeating yourself. For one, people are aware of  the things that are hurting you whether they act oblivious to it or not. Secondly, if you have to keep repeating yourself that means they do not respect what you say. Repeated mistakes are decisions so since we’re out here making decisions, it’s best to let them go and save your energy and time.

Take Risk

Don’t allow yourself to be paralyzed by fear. The dream is in your heart. Don’t just think bigger, believe bigger. Step out on faith. Do you want to pursue an acting career? Start the proper channels on doing so today. Get your headshots and lines together. Audition until your feet heart, rest a little, and do it again. This is the perfect time to take risk.

Quality Friends Only

Surround yourself with people who have your best interest at heart and support you emotionally and mentally. Two good friends are worth more than people popular amongst thousands of people. Being around people you can trust and rely on makes life easier.

Get Rid of that “No New Friends” Mentality

Be receptive to friendship. I met my most amazing friends in my adulthood. Had I only stuck to the people I grew up with (no shade) I’d be miserable. I have friends with mutual interest, goals, and who make me feel like I’ve known them for a million years. We relate and we can rely on each other. Had I blocked myself out from experiencing new friendship I would have been in a very lonely place to say the least. 

These are just a few things that help give you stability in your 20’s aka the period of the search for self-actualization. Apply these into your life and watch the difference it makes.