You Don't Have a Zero Tolerance for BS. You Just Don't Know How to Communicate.

Cutting people off requires balance. It’s an art to this. You cut off toxic people who are assassins to your joy. You don’t cut people off just because you don’t always agree. Some of y’all do not know how to communicate. Allow me to elaborate.

The friend that is unsupportive of everything that you do and makes you feel unsafe and less than what you are is the friend that you need to cut ties with. You do not cut the friend off that gives you constructive criticism and doesn't co-sign to your BS. Apart from being a supportive friend is letting your friend know when they're trippin'. You don't want any "yes men" that will allow you to walk blindly into your doom. Your friends are supposed to aid your growth and apart of that is pure, loving honesty.

Sometimes we struggle with knowing the difference between addressing and arguing. If your friend addresses an issue it does not always mean they are trying to argue, they are trying to communicate. You may not like or agree with what they are saying but that is not grounds to do away with someone. Consider what they have to say then take it or leave it.

Here's an example where a lot of friendships end. Your friend does not have a good feeling about someone you are dating and they have no problem telling you every chance they get because they care that much. You decide to cut them off because they are blowing out your cloud 9. Down the line, you end up finding out that they were right. Instead of just considering their side or even just telling them "I appreciate your concern but let me ride this out on my own", you are out of a friend.

Unfortunately, disagreements that could have easily been combed out with a sit-down conversation end up blowing up to the end of a friendship. We are currently in a cut-off culture that glorifies cutting off toxicity. Although you should cut off toxic relationships, not every relationship is toxic. Some relationships just simply have problems, as all relationships do. Not everything is going to always be "peachy keen". That is why it is fundamental that you step your communication skills up because all relationships require proper communication. Don't end up not having any bridesmaids because you cut off everyone who pisses you off. Know the difference between "you are toxic for my life" and "I don't agree with you on everything." You will be happier and most likely less lonely.