It's about time we talk about Emotional Vampires and their parasitic qualities. These people are your family members, a couple of your friends, coworkers, and that boyfriend who ain't really your boyfriend. After dealing with these people, you need Jesus and a Drank! You may have someone in mind as you're reading this. Allow me to solidify what you are feeling by exposing their characteristics and what it looks like to be bitten by them. I reclaimed my time and now it's time for you to as well.
1. You Have to Prepare Yourself to Speak to Them
You may as well save their number as "Count" because that vampire completely depletes you of your energy. Even the thought of contact with them is overwhelming. You may fear that they will try to start a fight, ask you to do something (these vamps do not believe in reciprocation by the way) or they simply have this negativity surrounding them that is so potent, you can feel it before it even hits. You end up donating energy you can't afford to lose, only for them to suck it up and go about their day. They drain you quicker than an android battery and one conversation can lead you desperately needing to recharge.
2. They Leave Residue of Their Negativity Onto You
They do things that will leave you overthinking, replaying words they've said, and things that they have done. You find yourself emotionally exhausted. You bring awareness to their actions and they take no accountability. If anything, their response leaves you angrier than what you originally confronted them about.
3. You Feel Rejuvenated Out Of Their Presence.
Distance from them is a cheap vacation. You are charged up, free of this feeling of impending doom, and even feel like being social again (just not with them). You find yourself feeling more positive and free...until they come back around.
4. Love Bombing
They shower you with so much love. They fill you with compliments and maybe a few nice gestures. They try to make it seem as if you are one of the most important people in their life. They make you feel guilty for distancing yourself from them because supposedly they needed you so bad.
5. The Guilt
They go right back to their piss poor ways then make you more responsible for their shortcomings like never before. Sunshine really does kill these fools. That love was short lived. At this point, you were supposedly so problematic but kept blaming them for it then they gave you all this love and you didn't appreciate it. This tactic is textbook. Don't fall for it. At this point, you're probably on the line of DONE. They can die mad about it. They have no reason to be the angry one but who cares, this is what you do next.
6. No Contact
The best way to deal with a liar is, don't. These people are not oblivious to how wrong they are. However, they will never admit it and when they do say their wrong, it's an agenda behind that fake accountability. I am not going to even front, you reclaiming your peace will result in pure anger from the vampire. They will do things they know irritate you, trash talk you, or try to infiltrate your world and shake it up. Anything that will incite a response, they will do. Their pride is hurt. They don't want you to feel like you won. Unbeknownst to them, they're the only ones who were playing games.
The Bright Side of This
Being in situations like this teaches you how to choose your peace and disarm people with motives. These situations typically leave you feeling more wise and stronger opposed to wounded. Yes you may feel a little guilty and hurt about severing ties with someone who was once special in your life, however you are better without them than with them. Would you rather be in pain for a moment or indefinitaley? That's basically what it boils down to.
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