It’s the third glass of champagne and dessert is on the way. As your crème brulee is approaching the table, you see that it is garnished with something shiny on top. That shiny garnishment is a ring. Tears begin to fill your eyes. He reaches for your hands and says “I promise to stay faithful, love, and cherish you.” Your breath begins to feel heavy and it feels like it’s just the two of you. “I promise to be there when you need me and I promise you my full support. Will you accept this promise ring?” You watch him place the promise ring on your 26-year-old finger. You begin to feel guilty for being disappointed. Well, let me tell you, girl. I understand.
When you’re younger, promise rings feel like one of the best gifts you can receive from your love. They're shiny, exuberant, and they make you feel special. However, when you’re older it’s different. You are rooting. You are advancing in your career, looking at property, and setting the foundation for a future family. Dating becomes a lot more serious in comparison to when you were younger. The things that a promise ring comes with: faithfulness, honesty, loyalty, and etc, are the fundamental things that you should already be getting in a relationship. You want the ring on your finger to symbolize a little more. At this point in my life the only ring I want is an engagement ring. A promise ring feels to me as if my significant other is trying to appease me. If I am given a ring, I want it to symbolize that it is emphatic that you see your future with me and are taking the steps to ensure that. If you aren’t sure if that’s where we are, a bracelet will do. Don’t surprise me with a ring that can be misleading. I am dating purposefully at this stage in my life like many of my peers. I appreciate all gifts from the heart but this is something to consider. Save the ring for what it universally symbolizes.
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