Don’t Reheat Cold Fries: Release to Receive

The aroma of freshly fried potatoes fills the atmosphere. You reach into the oil-stained bag to grab a fresh, hot, golden, crispy fry. The crunch and the flavor of the fries are euphoric. As much as you want to keep eating you get full. You close the bag with the intention of continuing to devour them later. Then you go back to them later that night. They’re cold so of course you have to reheat them. Unlike when you first got them, they’ve lost their crisp and no matter what you do, they are never going to be the way they once were. They’re stale and beyond repair. No matter if you sprinkle a little water on them, put them in the microwave or the oven, it’s never going to be as enjoyable as they were in the beginning, just like that toxic relationship you keep trying to make work.

Often times we try to chase a feeling. We want that fresh, euphoric love that was once there. Although it’s obtainable, our expectations tell us that it’s supposed to be with that person when in reality, it is not. You are doing a disservice to yourself trying to hold on to something that is expired. You’re often finding yourself burning yourself to keep the other person warm. You always go back because they are what you know. You feel like you’ve invested so much into them, you have to work with what you have. You don’t want every feeling, and every effort going to waste. Another reason why you go back is that you’re uncomfortable with your solitude. You convinced yourself that being alone is worse than being with someone who makes you feel alone. You’d rather suffer with them than suffer without them. However, you’re only blocking who is truly supposed to come along. How is somebody new supposed to walk into a place that’s already reserved? It’s time to release in order to receive. You’re looking at that period of being by yourself until the next person comes, the wrong way. You keep calling it loneliness. It’s not loneliness. It’s “me time”. It is the period of reflection. 

Take advantage of that downtime. That is the time to make decisions for you and to look inside yourself. What are your wants? What are your needs? What sets your soul on fire? It’s time to consider your own feelings. This is the time to please yourself. Get acquainted. Complete yourself so you won’t be looking for your next significant other to make you whole. Your partner isn’t supposed to make you, they are supposed to complement you. I know God says when you are married, you become one. That doesn’t mean you come broken. It is very possible for two complete people to unite. Everything you need and everything you deserve is within yourself. Address, it, manifest it and feed your soul with fruitful things. Not cold fries.