Dear friend, We Can't Forgive Your Sucky Boyfriend as Quickly as You Do.

3 mimosas in and  the girls and I are listening to reason #384 our dear friend is “done with him.” This Brunch is about to turn into dinner if we are here another hour. She paints us a vivid picture of his manipulation, lies, and deceit. We also know his financial status, family drama, and his unmotivated, tail-chasing friends.  Maybe if we sit here long enough, we’ll know his social security number too. If she was recruiting us to #TeamHateMyBoyfriend she reached her goal. We established long ago, while my waffles were still hot, that her boyfriend is trash. Brunch ends exactly on that note and before we leave we make plans for this upcoming Saturday night. 

Throughout the week we text our excitement to get our girl out of the house, look cute, and meet someone new so that the next time we go to Brunch, the conversation will be some good news about a good man. She agrees. 

Saturday Night is here. We tell her we’re on our way to pick her up. She promptly texts our group chat and tells us she’s running late and will meet us at the club. We roll our eyes then roll out to the club. After being over an hour late, she strolls in with the supposed ex right next to her. 2 shots of Jameson was unfortunately not stronger than my confusion and frustration. 3 days ago we were convinced that this man helps reign Hell on Satan’s sick days. We discussed how she was the last one left who liked him. His family, friends, and goldfishes hated him. So now we're supposed to spend our night with that? We have to discard of all the information from the person who knows him best has given us just 3 days ago? She was not pleased with our reaction.

Your boyfriend sucks and you can forgive and forget all of the times he’s shown you who he truly was, all you want. However, please consider the fact that those around you cannot do the same, especially so quickly. We only know him off of the few times he comes around, your subs on Instagram, and what you tell us. You cannot be angry that we don’t want to embrace someone who makes you so miserable. As your friends, you should be able to talk to us about anything. No one is saying do not vent to us. I am just saying that you cannot control how we respond. As a friend, my instinct is to protect you. I cannot embrace anyone who harms you. Your relationship can be hot and cold if that’s how you choose to live but not everyone around you will follow suit. Not everyone can or is willing to operate on toxicity let alone help you operate in it. If you’re going to air out all your dirty laundry, make sure it’s your last load. Once we know what all your significant other has done to you, there is a point of no return. Don’t be angry that you told your friends the truth about your man and we believe it. You are stuck in infatuation and we are stuck in reality.