What Happens When You Surround Yourself with Quality Friendships

A big part of life is overcoming. There are always giants you have to face in life. When you knock one down, the next one is ready for face-off. That’s why it’s imperative to have quality people around you. You have enough to fight. You need support and love. That’s where quality friends come into play. They are transformative. Here’s what happens when you surround yourself with quality friendships. 

1. You Feel Protected

No one feels comfortable speaking ill about you to your quality friends. If they do, those friends quickly remind them why they shouldn’t. Your quality friends love you in your face and behind your back. They know the treasures inside of you are so precious and will protect them by all means necessary. They don’t take kindly to anyone spitting on your name or bringing any harm towards you and your light. If you are wrong, they tell you privately but in public you all are a united front. Defending you and everything that you are, comes without hesitation.

2. You Get Honesty from a Place of Love 

Be cognizant of those who are trying to break your spirit. There are people who will learn your insecurities and poke at them to dim your light in the name of “keeping it real” with you. Fortunately, that’s not the nature of a quality friend. When you have a quality friend their honesty comes from a place of love and good intention.  That’s why they're mindful of their delivery. Instead of “You can’t keep a man” they say “You deserve to be loved properly. However, there are things that you need to work on within yourself so that you can love others properly too.”  The delivery was direct, but it didn’t make their friend feel like less than what they are.  

3.  You Get Reciprocation

You’re not too heavy for your friends. When you’re feeling weary they’re right there to pick you up. “Get up girl, we got this” and “I see you’re going through a rough time, how can I assist you?” is the kind of things they say to you. They speak life into you. They pray that whatever weapon formed against you shall not prosper. They pour into you. Then when the time comes where they’re in need of strength, you’re right there to pick them back up just like they were there for you. 

4. You Feel Empowered

You always take from quality people whether you intend to or not. They just rub off on you. You’ll be sitting there talking to your friend, next thing you know you hit an epiphany. Quality friends don’t sit there and entertain a bunch of gossip and dwell on negativity. They have better things to talk about than people. They are goal-oriented, insightful, and raw. You naturally just bounce off of them during a conversation. You pull things from what they have to say. Their perspectives on life are refreshing. They are always on a journey to further their growth and they encourage you to ride with them. One conversation with them has you ready to take on the world. 

5. You Have People to Depend On

Life happens. Regardless, when quality friends say they are going to do something you can trust that they will do it. Their word is bond. Should they ever run into anything that conflicts with their commitment, they will let you know or even help you find an alternative. They aren't the one's that leave you at the airport at the last minute. They're the ones that help you figure out a ride home since they had to cancel on you last minute. They're not obligated to, but it's just not in their nature to leave you out to dry. 

6. You Have a Safe Space to be You 

You can let your hair down around your quality friends. Their presence is judgment-free. They know you are better than your mistakes. If you have a little too much wine, you don’t have to feel embarrassed about it when you sober up. They find out you’re dating someone who isn’t conventionally attractive? It’s cool with them as long as they’re treating you’re right and you’re genuinely happy. Your quality friends are rooting for you. You're safe with them. 

7. They Respect Your Space

There are times when you need a little “me time”. Your quality friends don’t make you feel guilty about it. They respect your space. If you can’t go out tonight, it’s fine. If you are in a place in your life where you need to be by yourself for a little bit, they honor it. They understand that you need to recharge. They understand that in order to be a good friend you need to take care of yourself. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Don’t worry, take time to replenish. It’s fine with them. They want you to have what you need. That's peace and balance. 

Having quality friends is invigorating. I can go on about how conducive they are to your life. Everything listed is what you should be surrounded by. How has good friendship impacted your life? What does good friendship look like to you? Comment below