The Table He Wants You to Bring Everything To

Above is the table he insists you bring everything to. In order to have a seat at this “table”, you must fulfill the following prerequisites. 

First, you have to pass the coke bottle test. If you aren’t shaped like a glass coke bottle your seat is not secured. However, there’s still hope! There’s more to fulfill here so don’t get discouraged. He will present a picture of his #WCW whose face is beaten to the GAWDS and you must favor her. Wait though, you have to look like her but without make-up. She may not even look like herself without make-up but look, you already failed the coke bottle test so it’s the least you can do. If that’s a fail, don’t worry, there's more. His girlfriend cheated on him in high school so he has had a pretty rough life, the least you can do is have soft, long hair. Don’t put it in a protective style though because although they love healthy hair, they don’t like what you have to do to achieve it. If you cannot fulfill those three things, stay tuned. There’s more to do! You must work full time and make a decent salary. When you come home you must cook a five-course meal whilst making sure every room is dusted, vacuumed, and every article of clothing is folded. After cleaning the whole house you financially support and cooking the food you bought at the grocery store, you must open your Kama Sutra you keep in the nightstand and make your toes touch your forehead. You have to be a freak but a freak with no experience. God forbid you’re a sexual being. 

I know what you’re thinking. “That sure sounds like a lot, Raven. What do I get in return?” * drumroll * Here’s what you win! Welcome to the table! The temperature you set the oven on to cook his dinner is higher than his credit score. His body is in the condition of what he would hate if your body was in. He lacks substance, thoughtfulness, his views are limited, and he lacks everything that he requires you to be. That’s his table and you deserve better. Let’s be clear, this is not all men. This is merely an observation of the men who are always changing the goalpost to what’s “Wifey Material”. 

These men have standards that don’t align with what they have to offer. There are way too many women who are becoming “pick me’s” trying to prove they’re worthy of love to men who don’t even love themselves. They are putting these unrealistic, ashy, standards up that they can’t even step to and that’s an issue. Be what you are asking for! Don’t tell a woman to walk in the spirit of a wife and you can’t even walk in the spirit of a man. These men with broken tables are here to take. They will drain you in hopes of repairing and/or validating themselves. They cannot give you the stability that they do not have. 

One couple I’ve noticed recently a lot of women ask “What as the exact prayer she said to get him?” is Ciara and Russell Wilson. Ciara is a beautiful, successful, mother. She is emphatically the standard a lot of men are asking for. However, she was once engaged to a man with a broken table. She brought so much to the table but it still was not enough for him to provide stability and faithfulness. Now she is in a marriage that some may refer to as a fairy tale. She walked into that marriage as Ciara. The beautiful, successful, mother and it was enough and more.  The goalpost wasn’t being changed constantly to become his wife because his table was stable. They both had a lot to offer which created a solid foundation. He wasn’t just taking, he was reciprocating. He embraced her son, supported her career, and even recently bought her masters. He is a man who is aligned with the woman he asked for. 

There may be a time or have been times where you have TRIED! I mean, you went above and beyond to the point where you’re wondering what is enough or are you even enough. In reality, the question you need to ask is if he is. I am not calling him worthless but there is one thing I know to be true. You will never be enough for a man who is not enough for himself. Don’t allow men with broken tables project their trauma onto you. Seek foundation.