Don't Be Crazy, Be Single.

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"I invested too much into this to just walk away"

I know, love, but you're going to keep investing and keep losing the longer you stay. Any successful investor will tell you to know when to walk away. Not only do they walk away, but they also take the lessons they learned in the investment they lost and make sure to avoid those same mistakes in the future. That's how you have to think about yourself and your time. Time is even more valuable than money so when it comes to your time, you have to ask yourself "Can I afford this?"

"He's gotten better"

Maybe's don't make honey. Almost doesn't count because that may very well be the best he's going to be. He may have cut down his cheating but he's still cheating. He may lie less but he's still lying. He may even be less disrespectful but you still aren't being treated with all the respect you deserve. Instead of focusing on getting even and teaching him a lesson, leave him alone. You will find yourself constantly cutting your hands trying to make him bleed. You don't have time to focus on someone else's self-improvement especially when you're the one taking it more seriously out of the two. Stop trying to raise a man. There are good men who will come to you that are raised already. Trust me.

"I'm tired of starting over"

Starting over may seem tiring but it will actually be one of the best favors you can do for yourself. You will be refreshed after waking up from a full night's rest knowing no one is lying and playing with you. You will have more time to learn about you and your love language. Also, you will have the availability to receive the love that you deserve. People leave long term relationships where they haven't been heard in for years. Then when they finally decide to date again, they meet someone who loves them the way they've been screaming how they wanted to be loved for years. Why hold on to the parts of the relationship you love? The notion that you won't be able to find those attributes in another relationship is a scam. The quicker you stop waiting angrily drunk for him to come home, the closer you'll be to stepping into your new journey.

"I can't let them get away with what they have done"

No one likes to hear this but revenge is not your responsibility. Revenge puts you in the crossfire. However, the good thing about this is that no one truly gets away with the pain they inflict on others. It may not happen instantly but when it does, the timing is perfect and so is the seed they sewed. You don't have to get revenge on a liar, he's going to lie on the right one and get handled accordingly. You don't have to get revenge on a cheater. Heartbreak is waiting for them at the door. You don't have to do anything to that manipulator. There's someone smarter and ready to beat them at their own game. Your only responsibility is to cleanse, heal, and move on. Life takes care of the rest. Just make sure you're doing what's right. Life's revenge doesn't exempt anyone.

In conclusion, all your feelings of anger, sadness, and disappointment are valid. You have every right to want to send it up! However, it is in YOUR best interest that you don't. Don't sacrifice yourself any further on the count of that person. Pick your head up and then your feet, and walk out. No more time and no more tears for them. Start preparing for the love you want with the kind of person you want. Lastly, don't send that paragraph sis, he doesn't care. He knows what he's doing and how it makes you feel. Do yourself a favor. Don't be crazy, be single. You're better company anyway.