Toxic People Go Wherever They Are Accepted

I saw a tweet that greatly articulated some of the points I was trying to make with one of my earlier posts.

"You Don’t Attract Broken People Because You Have a Healing Spirit. You’re Just Accessible."

How many journeys of " Self Reflection" have you gone on, trying to figure out why you attract "toxic people"? We constantly hear that you have to stop being so friendly, caring, and sensitive. You must be skeptical at all times and have walls built up. We even developed the belief that if you date conventionally attractive people or financially attractive people, you're asking for trouble. We really have gotten to a place where we believe being a sweet person with pure intentions or having certain standards, will result in you only attracting toxic people. However, that is the furthest from the truth. 

You must know that you are not being punished for loving or for having standards. Everyone encounters toxic people. Toxic people come in all different physical features, cultures, industries, and tax brackets. Some of the biggest heart-breakers don't have a pot to piss in. You can move halfway across the world and find them. They are everywhere. You cannot avoid meeting them, you just have to learn when and how to kick them out of your life as soon as they show you who they are. It's not that you are attracting them, you just made a home for them.

Instead of constantly critiquing your good qualities, and living in constant fear of loving because you think something is inherently wrong with you, just learn the art of letting go. Learn how to say "No" without apologizing and explaining yourself. Pay attention when you are being treated below standard. Do not let anyone get away with projecting their toxicity on you. When you don't make it comfortable for these people, constantly pouring ice water to the hell they raise, they won't even want to stay. 

I think it's important that we stop telling people that they're just a magnet for terrible people. Instead, we should encourage them to learn to let go and not allow these people to make a home out of us. Continue to go out into the world and love, express yourself, and meet new people. Just don't stand for anyone treating you less than what you are.