Forgiveness has undoubtedly been one of the most complex things that have taken me years to understand. People make it sound so cut and dry. We're taught that when someone hurts you, you sit down, talk it out, and move on. Often, their definition of moving on is trying to never bring it up again and keep on maintaining the relationship. But, what happens when they do it once more? Then down the line, it happens again? This time you may not want to talk. If we're being honest here, you want to do away with the relationship altogether. Then when people ask what happened between you and the other party because they always do, you express to them that you don't want that person in your life anymore. Usually, those people take it upon themselves to accuse you of not forgiving them and tell you that you need to. Sometimes, that creates pressure for us to "be the bigger person" and reach out to have another conversation. Deep down inside, you know it's not going to be productive and that this person's patterns have shown you who they really are, but you don't want to be an "unforgiving" bitter person.
