You Don’t Attract Broken People Because You Have a Healing Spirit. You’re Just Accessible.

You may have seen the viral tweet that’s going around that says, “I attract broken people because I have a healing spirit”. It is said that we will interact with approximately 80,000 people in our lifetime. Unfortunately, a lot of those people are going to be broken. Reality is you’re going to meet many people with different problems, walks in life, and backgrounds. It is highly probable that those people are carrying internal issues. We may meet the same amount of broken people, but you may be more likely to develop relationships with them. Here’s why. 

It has nothing to do with your spirit. It has to do with your tolerance and your eagerness to fix things that you see are broken. You can be supportive, loving, and assist them with their pain as much as you possibly can but they still aren’t healing from what you are giving them. To be frank, they may actually just be draining you. Healing is a path that they have to take on their own. You can provide comfort but you cannot fully heal for someone. There’re people who can sit in church, the psychiatrist’s couch, and vent to all of their family friends, and still not fully heal from their brokenness. They gravitate more to you because you make yourself available to lean on. It may make them feel better, but they aren’t vindicated from their mental prison.   

A lot of people who go around feeling that they can just love and support someone into their healing often end up exhausting themselves. They are trying to assume the responsibility of issues that aren’t theirs to solve. No matter what you do, a person has to be ready to heal on their own. No one is saying to not be there for someone or let them face the rocky road on their own. I just want you to know that if a person does not heal, or even bother to face their issues, that is not in your hands. I know it hurts to see someone hurting but you can’t take someone’s issues and solve them all on your own. If it were possible, most parents would have done it for their children a long time ago. Life gives us all our own burdens to bear. Believing in the misconception that you just have this healing spirit that can heal anyone will ultimately leave you feeling guilty and hurt at the end once you realize that you’ve done all that you can possibly ever do for someone.