Apart of protecting your energy is protecting your ear and eye gate. Essentially, blocking things that no longer serve you is self-care. That's where your ex falls in, so take care of yourself. Now, you may be apprehensive about hitting that block button. You don't want them to think you're "bitter". Stop it. Who cares what they think? The whole point is to let go and stop caring about how they feel about you. No one is saying to hate them. I'm merely advocating for you to protect your peace of mind. Them being out of sight and out of mind will contribute to that. I also understand there's a possibility that looking bitter isn't a concern of yours. This isn't everyone's case. However, here are a few reasons as to why you may not have hit that block button yet.
You Want Them to Witness The Glow Up
You want that last laugh. You know they missed out on something great and you want them to feel it. In fact, you want to become even greater so that they will REALLY feel it. You want them to eat their heart out. Well, let me tell you something. You don't need their validation. If they couldn't love you in your cocoon, they don't deserve to see your wings. Also, know that you leave your impact on people. All the ways you used to care for them is really going to hit once they are not cared for in that way again. The little things you used to do become apparent when they stop being done for them. They will never experience the things that are wonderfully and uniquely you again and that's none of your business. Also, once upon of time they did desire you. You had their validation and they still couldn't deliver.
You Want Answers
You're dissecting every post, like, and comment. You're trying to find easter eggs. You can't conceptualize how you went from their world to foreign land. How can they love you one moment and leave you the next? You're looking for a concrete answer or at least clues on why your foundation cracked. The answers they did give you had a lot of holes in them and here you are trying to find the pieces. Don't put yourself through that tournament. The answer is simple. They want you or they don't. Don't confuse sugar and salt. They left and that's all that matters.
A Little Gleam of Hope
After seeing you live your life, feeling good and looking even better, you think there will be a part of them that misses you and ends up reaching out. Or at the time you all broke up, they probably had a lot going on so you're allowing time to pass. In reality, anyone who pushes you away in order to "grow" or find peace is someone you shouldn't pursue a relationship with anyway. You are supposed to grow together and support each other during the storm. You don't want someone who wants you only after the storm. How can they one day vow "for better or for worst" with you if they pushed you away every time they got overwhelmed?
You Want Closure
Trying to find healing in broken people never goes well. There are some doors you just have to close on your own and this is one of them. Their reasons why you two broke up tend to feel empty and contradicting. Their answers may make you feel inadequate. The truth is, you are enough. You are more than enough. You just can never be right for the wrong person. You're looking for their words to free your heart but peace is something you have to find on your own with time.
In conclusion, you owe it to yourself protect yourself from triggers. It's healthy to not read into their statuses trying to figure out if it's a subliminal message about you. You shouldn't have to be ambushed with information your heart isn't ready for, like them going out, dating, and doing the things you've been begging for them to do. You honestly don't even need updates on how they're doing. You can wish them the best but wish it from a distance. You have moved on and moving on is your commitment now. .
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