Adulting is making a living, tending to your endless list of errands, whilst remembering to eat, be healthy, and be a sibling, cousin, lover, and/or parent. Through all the chaos, you need friends. Friendship is very important. It's therapeutic and can be a nice escape from your other obligations. However, when the friendship demands more than what you can give, it can get draining. That's why it's important to thank the friends that understand that you can't call every day. You can't drop everything you're doing for last-minute plans. They may not even hear from you for a few days but the love has not changed. Life is happening to all of us. This is why Low Maintenance Friendship is the shit!
I Haven't Seen You in Two Months but I Still Love You!
For most people, the weekends are the only time where you can get stuff done like grocery shopping, post office runs, renewing your license, the list goes on. Then you also need a day to have "me time" so you can recharge and take on the week ahead. Before you know it, weeks have gone by and you haven't seen your friends. They're not tripping' though, they know how it is. You all plan something, see each other, and look forward to the next time you all can do it again.
I'm Sorry I Missed Your Call
Your friends from high school or college may be accustomed to calling you at midnight to chop it up. However, just like that, we aren't that young anymore and we have obligations. A lot of us have to get up at 5-6 am. We may have to miss that call. They don't take it personally though. They understand.
It's Like I Saw You Yesterday
You all finally meet up, and it's like you never missed a beat. You catch each other up on what's going on. Although you all text and reply to social media post here and there throughout the day, you are finally able to be present in a conversation and it is refreshing. Our lives are changing but the love we have for each other has not.
Your Friend Isn't Fake, They are Busy
You may be at a point in life where you aren't that used to not talking or being around your friend every day. They aren't being shady, they just have a lot going on. A big part of friendship is understanding. Extend love and understanding and you all will make it. Trust that your friends will be there when it counts. They still will be by your side on your wedding day, they won't let you eat that tub of ice cream on your own, and they will be there to clap their asses till it turns red at your birthday turn up. You just may not have those Tuesday Lunches you're used to having every week anymore but it's okay. Stability is in the works.
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