No one is Opinionated Like A Deadbeat Father

Meghan's father Thomas Markle recently accused his daughter of "cheapening" the royal family. He often chooses to hate outside of the club he cannot get into. This is merely one of his many revolting, public comments he's made about his daughter and her marriage. He even went as far as cosigning ill comments made by his other daughter who Meghan barely knows and has no relationship with. Unfortunately, there is no getting through to this shell of a man. Shortly after her wedding, she penned a 5-page letter begging her father to stop the public attacks and lies against her and her relationship with Harry. She even asked if they can work on repairing their father-daughter relationship privately. What does Thomas Opportunist Markle do in response? He takes the letter his daughter wrote him to the press. 

Deadbeat fathers have a lot of opinions about children they barely helped raise and express a lack of interest in. The criticism and unwarranted public bashing only adds fire to the mess their absence and inconsistency have made. Secondly, males like Thomas Markle tend to be the most entitled. He has frequently asked Meghan for financial assistance when he's only brought nothing but a headache and a new headline to the table. He can't tell you his daughter's interest nor what she does in her free time but he sure can tell you some dirt on her which most likely is a stretch from the truth. He's the tabloids dream parent. He doesn't have his daughter's best interest at heart, he's more present for the tabloids than her. 

Why can't men like him stand to see their children happy? Where does this hatred stem from? The answer is simple. Watching your child have success, happiness, and prestige is a striking reminder that you've done nothing to contribute to it. Embarrassment begins to seep through because you know that everyone else knows the truth too. So men like Markle choose to try to dim their child's light, making the world think she isn't that great in hopes of making himself not look so bad. Yet, he's the one accusing her of cheapening the family as if helping the media bully your daughter and not being the father she deserves isn't bottom of the barrel. 

This isn't what love looks like. Your parent is not supposed to be your first bully, let alone at all. Those who have fathers like Markle, who spread insidious things about you, feel grossly entitled to your success whether it's monetary, or feel entitled to bragging rights, don't think for one second it is about you. It is not about what you did and did not do. It is not your job to teach your father integrity, decency, unconditional love, responsibility, and boundaries. It is not your job to raise your parents. Your only responsibility is to forgive for your well-being, heal, and protect your peace. Your life will still be fulfilled. Meghan is a great example of that. She has a beautiful child and wonderful husband who will give up his royalty, the only life he's known, just for her peace because he finds happiness in her happiness. His love for her is not only romantic, but he loves, cares, and protects her in a way her father should have. No matter where the source comes from, there is peace, love, healing, and joy coming your way and it won't be contingent on the father who never was.