You Were Supposed to Be In My Life But Not Forever: Purposeful Relationships

One of the things that used to hurt me the most after a break up was feeling like I allowed someone to waste my time. I would start to think about the sacrificed time, money, gifts, and energy that I put into the relationship to grow, only for it to wilt. "What was the point of this? He could've just left me alone." I'd vent. Then as time would go by, I'll finally encounter the reason why that person came into my life. Sometimes things just make sense later. 

We’re Cool but I’m Still Changing My Netflix Password: Setting Boundaries Post Breakup

My ex in college and I broke up that year in September, but we didn’t stop talking until that November. Talk about confusion. I remember feeling like I couldn’t do it anymore and that there was someone else out there who was right for me. I didn’t like how he took his frustrations out on those around him. I didn’t like the way he communicated his feelings and I especially hated his taste in movies. Of course, there were other factors but to make a long story short, although he was a good person, we weren’t right for each other. So, I broke up with him. He was pretty sad but only for a little while because we talked all day, every day. It was almost like nothing happened. We felt better keeping each other around and it made me feel less bad for breaking up with him, which in hindsight was pretty selfish. 

Stop Trying to Heal at Other People's Expense: Rebounding

"What's the matter with you, lil girl?!" our favorite cleaning lady Pam, asked my friend as we walked through the hallway to our dorm floor's lounge. "Me and my man just broke up" my friend solemnly replies. "So, that's what y'all got all that ice cream for." Pam says while laughing and pointing at our 3 pints each of Ben & Jerry's. "You don't need ice cream you need a new man. The best way to get OVER somebody is to get UNDER somebody." Pam adds as she rolls her cart away, leaving my friend with that bad, BAD, advice that we've been hearing from the old folks for years. Today, we just call it "rebounding". How many times have you heard that we have to get under someone to get over someone? I've heard it countless times but no one likes to tell you what happens after you get under that someone else.

The "Pick Me's" Killed Chivalry

I sat there 3 chicken tenders deep, wondering when did wanting a man to hold doors become high-maintenance. It was my sophomore year of college. I met a guy who we're going to call "AJ", on campus. He went to one of the surrounding schools near my school. AJ was nice, funny, smelled good, dressed nice, tall, and athletic. In short, my type. We exchanged numbers and continued to talk and get to know each other. After my last class of the week, AJ calls me up and says "I'm going to be out your way tomorrow to check out this new store. You should come with. We'll hang out in the city, grab some food, and talk more in person." I accepted his offer. He then says "Great, it's a date." I found the cutest casual outfit I owned that was clean and sat it out for tomorrow.

Don't Sleep On Amazon: Cute Outfit Finds for The Summer

                                             

                                    

Amazon has saved my life so many time with their 1-2 day shipping and detailed reviews. Here are some cute must-haves that I discovered for the summer.
(Pictured: Womens 2 Piece Summer Outfits Boho Striped Print Crop Cami Top with Shorts Set Green )