AskReddit: People Share Things They Know But Aren't Supposed to Know

You may or may not have heard of Reddit. Reddit essentially is a massive collection of forums, where people can share news and content or comment on other people’s posts. A lot of that content so happens to be a lot of people's personal stories. The question on this forum is "What is something you know but you’re not supposed to know?". Here are some of those people's shocking answers. 

1. My mom had a child out of wedlock and gave him up for adoption. This was the early 70’s.

2. My great grandparents were also brother and sister. I don't want to believe it but I totally do.

3. My mom told me of a couple in her home town who later found out they were siblings. They had somehow been separated at a very young age during WW2 and met again when they were older, not knowing they were siblings. Somehow it was figured out after they'd had a few kids.

4. How my parents met. Mom was a stripper and dad just happen to go there.

Finish Being Where You Are First. It Will All Make Sense Later

"Finish being where you are first. It will all make sense later." This quote right here rang so true in my heart when I read it in What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower's Guide to Why You Are Already Enough. That is what Chidera's father said to her when she was stressing herself sick in her last year of college. Not only was she worried about finishing, she didn't know exactly what she wanted to do and how long it will take her to find work post-graduation. She ended up failing the semester and not finishing school. Don't feel too bad for her though because now she's 24 years old with a best-seller, traveling and speaking all over the world. After reading that, I closed the book and I leaned my head against the cold train window. My mind sailed away to the countless times I've allowed worrying about the future be the thief of enjoying the present. 

Reasons to Hate Beyoncé

   There isn’t any. Let that hate go. 

You Owe It to Yourself: Books to Read for Self-Development

We are like plants. We need water, we need sunlight, and we need food to grow. Feed your mind with information from these books. Some of these are about relationships, finance, self-love, and developing the mindset of a prolific, successful, individual. (Click on the images for more details or to purchase.)

Blocking Your Ex Isn't Bitter; It's Self-Care

Apart of protecting your energy is protecting your ear and eye gate. Essentially, blocking things that no longer serve you is self-care. That's where your ex falls in, so take care of yourself. Now, you may be apprehensive about hitting that block button. You don't want them to think you're "bitter". Stop it. Who cares what they think? The whole point is to let go and stop caring about how they feel about you. No one is saying to hate them. I'm merely advocating for you to protect your peace of mind. Them being out of sight and out of mind will contribute to that. I also understand there's a possibility that looking bitter isn't a concern of yours. This isn't everyone's case. However, here are a few reasons as to why you may not have hit that block button yet. 

You Want Them to Witness The Glow Up

To The Kodak Black's Of The World: Stop Preying On Women's Vulnerability and Calling It Friendship

Some of you may be aware of the recent live video made by Kodak Wack, formally known as Kodak Black (in my book). In this video, he decides to confess his predatory love for Lauren London, who just recently lost the love of her life and the father of her child in a tragic, senseless, murder. Ashy and shirtless, he states in the video. "Lauren London's that baby though. She's gonna be out here single. She's gonna be a whole widow out here." The 21-year old mumble rapper continued. "I’ll be the best man I can be for her,".  "I’ll give her a whole year. She might need a whole year to be crying and s--- for him." He adds: "I ain’t trying to shoot [my shot] at her. I’m saying, listen. She can do two, three years. I’ll try to be like the friend if you need to holla or a shoulder to lean on. She can call my line." 

If You're Scared Then Do It Scared

This question has lingered over me ever since I heard it. "If all your insecurities disappeared today, what would you be doing?" I began to visualize myself without self-doubt. Raven who didn't doubt herself didn't talk herself out of embracing her gifts. She never questioned if she was adequate enough to hold them. Raven who didn't feed into self-conscious thoughts wore anything she wanted without changing into 4 different outfits just to end up balling them up and throwing them into the bottom of her closet. She wore her curls out, shrinkage and all. She unapologetically came for everything they said she could not have. Even if she was scared, she did it scared.

Surround Yourself With People Who Are Sensitive to Who You Are

If being out of your presence feels safer than being in it, I am going to choose my safety. No friendship should feel like a constant war between peace and loyalty.  Friendship is supposed to feel safe. I’m not just talking about external safety. You are supposed to feel mentally and emotionally safe around your friends. That means feeling considered, cared about, and supported. We may not always agree and we may not even always understand but we are to have each other’s best interest at heart when the dust settles. Those who are sensitive towards who you understand this and they do the following things below.