Super Creepy True Stories to Read At Your Own Risk!

A few people were kind enough to submit some of their bone-chilling real-life experiences with me. Not only was I completely freaked out, but I was also angry with myself for reading many of these at midnight. Now it’s your turn to be creeped out tonight. 

1. Tender Ain't So Tender 

I met a guy off of Tinder. Before you think “Well I know how this is going to end” let me explain. We had a lot of mutual Facebook friends and I have seen him around my campus a couple of times. He went to a school in the surrounding area.  For the next few months, we texted back and forth, facetimed every night, met up at the coffee shop on my campus and just chilled at least weekly. He was a pretty laid back, clean cut dude. Nothing creepy at all. He even loved animals. I finally build a little trust to invite him to my dorm. In order to get into my dorm, you have to get signed in with a State-ID. He gives the front desk security his school ID. The guard says “We don’t accept that. We need a state ID, drivers license or a passport to get you signed in”. He reluctantly gives them his license. I laughed because I assumed he just didn’t want me to see his picture. What I did notice though was that his name was different than what he told me. He had me calling him by his middle name instead of his first. I thought nothing of it until the security guard turned white. She looks like she’s seen a ghost. She then tells him “You’re banned from this building and all campus buildings.” He snatches his license back and storms out. I am just standing there trying to process everything. Once I break out of my daze and decide to go after him, he’s long gone. Actually, something told me not to. I go upstairs and type in his name into google. Some random football player pops up, Totally not him. Then I type in his real first name and take the middle name out. A few mugshots pop up. 3 of them were weed charges and I start to close out my computer. Then I notice this 4th mugshot. I click on it and find out he has a pending case for Sexual Assault with a Deadly Weapon. There was more but I got freaked out and shut my computer. About 45 minutes later, Security comes to my door and says the police want to ask me a few questions. When I got down there, they were asking me did I meet him when I was 17 because I recently turned 18, and what was the extent of our relationship because he's not supposed to be around minors. It was weird but that's one of the questions that stuck out to me the most. I deleted Tinder that night. 

How to Not Lose Yourself In Your 20's

At this point in your life, you are just trying to get yourself established. You’re probably post graduation right now or trying tirelessly to break into the workforce. You’re probably already working and it’s dark outside when you leave out and dark outside when you come back. Things can get monotonous and it is very easy to lose yourself in this phase of your life with so many obligations tugging at you, whilst putting so much energy into faith that things will fall into place nicely. For the time being, here are some less demanding things you can intertwine into your life that will add to your growth, and also give you solace.

 Find a hobby

It is so important that you find a least a little bit of fun and joy. There are hobbies that won’t cost you a dime and there are hobbies that are worth the investment. I absolutely love to write and my pen makes me feel free. You can take a crack at this blogging life or train for a marathon, bake, make an Instagram page of your favorite things and build a following of people who enjoy the same. Join a facebook group, learn how to sew, edit, or learn how to make your own beauty products. The possibilities are endless on what you can do. Just do something that takes your mind off of your obligations for at least an hour. You need balance.

Watch Interviews and Listen to Speeches

Find people who have the things that you want and listen to their journey. You will find gems that are conducive towards you and you can apply that information to your life. You can also learn from their mistakes so that you can avoid making the same ones or if you do make them, you can reference their story on how they climbed out. Always feed your mind. Work smarter instead of harder. There are always better ways to do things. Sometimes work ethic isn’t your issue, it’s a lack of information.

Choose Freedom Over Acceptance

Constantly censoring your thoughts, emotions, and who you are as a person is exhausting. You’re trying so hard to fit in, you’re constantly crushing yourself to fit into a space that was not meant for you to be in. Choose your freedom over acceptance from others. I am not suggesting that you disregard accountability or responsibility. I am not saying to be this disrespectful rebel. I am saying stand for what you believe in. Protect your thoughts, rights, and beliefs, even if it’s the smallest thing like not pretending to like a TV show that everyone at your job is obsessing over with the intention of fitting in. Choosing freedom is also saying how you feel instead of holding it in fear of coming off as a difficult person. If someone is bothering you, tell them. Don’t bottle it in and try to convince yourself that you are ridiculous. Emancipate yourself from mental prisons. 

I Left You Before I Left

I stare at your lips from across the table. Your lips are moving but I don’t hear a thing.  My brain no longer allows me to process your excuses. Once upon a time, your eyes possessed a glow.  Now I just see emptiness. Your hands feel like sandpaper on my skin. Your voice sounds like impending doom.  As each day goes by I have less and less hope that I will ever be intoxicated by your presence again. My heart has built a resistance towards you. I have run out of energy to forgive, reason, and advance further with you. Freedom feels like being free from you. You don’t know what love is and I am tired of trying to teach you.  It still hurts to be without you but it sure hurts damn worse to be with you. I left before I left you.

You Don't Have a Zero Tolerance for BS. You Just Don't Know How to Communicate.

Cutting people off requires balance. It’s an art to this. You cut off toxic people who are assassins to your joy. You don’t cut people off just because you don’t always agree. Some of y’all do not know how to communicate. Allow me to elaborate.

Take Yourself On a Date: Fun Things to Do Alone

I don't know about you but I am pretty fun. I am also my own best friend as well as a best friend to other people. That is why I partake in "Me time". It is a great way to recharge and explore things on your own. Here are a few fun things I do with me, myself, and I that you should try. 

Get On a Wine Train

Going for a nice ride, reading a great book and sipping on some smooth wine is relaxing and helps your mind sail away. Let yesterday's problems slip off of you as you indulge in a book and some fermented fruit. 

Yoga On The Beach 

Stretch it out in a relaxing environment. Whether it is the beach or the park, become one with nature and have a relaxing stretch. 

You Weren’t Dickmatized. You Were Lead On.

If you let some men tell it, they just have this magic stick that makes the girls go crazy. In reality, the only thing magical is those dreams they sell to women. They will promise you tranquility and then look at you crazy for believing them. If you find yourself not at peace, paranoid, and full of anxiety because his actions and his words aren’t concurrent, know that you are not crazy or “dickmatized”. You have been lead on. 

Don't Be a Godmother If You Cannot Fulfill the Duties of One

How many of us are “Aunties” to children we barely see? I know, I get it. I am guilty of it too. Life gets busy and sometimes you don’t have the time nor balance to keep consistent contact with your friends let alone their children. However, when you are asked to be a godparent, it is a whole different ballpark. It is an honor that comes with responsibility. Before quickly saying “yes” because you’re just "oh so flattered", take a step back to think because there are important responsibilities to consider. 

Don't Fight For Me Just Because You're About to Lose Me

How many times have you felt like your cries seem to fall on deaf ears? You repeat yourself so much you would have thought your concerns were a script. You realize that you’ve been fighting for a love that was never even there. The empty little promises of “I’m going to do better” no longer does anything for your heart. The band-aids have lost their stick. You use the little energy you have left to go on your way. You have quite a few nights where you laid in the dark staring at the ceiling, trying to chase sleep. However, you cannot sleep because sleep requires at least a little ounce of peace. Your brain runs until it exhausts itself.  Your eyes finally give in. Slowly but surely, each night gets easier. You can finally sleep. Your head rises up a little more each day. Your heart slowly stops wilting like a dying rose. Colors no longer look gray. As soon as you nurse your heart back to health he tries to pull out all the stops because if he lets one more day, hell, even one more hour go by, he’s lost you for good. Everything you’ve been asking for is now available to you before you lock the door that you just closed. 

Sweetest Day Gifts for Your Sweetie

Some call Sweetest Day a “made up holiday”. However, I feel that Sweetest Day is a day of reciprocity. He has taken you out on many dates, love, supported you, and made you feel special. Now it's his turn. Here are some sweetest day gift ideas to help show your appreciation. 

Instead of a Card Give Him a Jar

Instead of going to the store to get him a card, handwrite and decorate 25 notecards telling him things you love about him and put them in a nice jar. It shows effort and creativity. Also, anytime that he feels down, misses you, or unsure of himself, he will be able to look at those cards and be reminded of how loved he is. 

Make Him a Box of His Favorite Things 

The best gifts are gifts that people actually want. Take a box, make it pretty, and put his favorite things in there. Put his favorite snacks, some of his favorite items like a few hats with his favorite sports team,  t-shirts, socks, cool accessories, and an inside joke like grey sweatpants (shout out to grey sweatpants season) and put it in the box. It shows that you pay attention to detail and him. 

Don’t Piss on Me and Tell Me That It’s Rain

You want to know something? We used to jam to “It Wasn’t Me” by Shaggy but that song isn’t nothing’ but gaslighting with a cute Caribbean beat. Here’s one of the verses. 

“Let's review the situation that you're caught up inna.  

To be a true player you have to know how to play. 

If she says a night, convince her say a day.

 Never admit to a word when she says 

And if she claims ah you tell her baby no way”  

The song sounds ridiculous and funny but to be completely honest, this is a lot of people’s reality. This is one of the tactics of a Sociopath and the cycle of a Narcissist. It’s called gaslighting. Gaslight is to manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. You caught your boyfriend flirting with someone and he’ll quickly tell you that you are overreacting. He was just being nice. Then he will tell you that you need to be more secure. These people are fluent in lying. They will have you over-analyzing yourself and come into some false epiphany that you’re just dating a kind man who is overly nice to everyone including pretty women. These are the type of men who will comment heart eyes under another girl’s pictures then when confronted, tell you that it’s “just Instagram” and that you are taking social media entirely too seriously. They will make you feel stupid and guilty for something they did. It is IMPERATIVE that you are cognizant of the signs and cycles of gas lighting. After being gaslighted for so long, they will be able to be caught red-handed and your mind will still be convinced that your reality is distorted and that your eyes are lies. Do not allow anyone to drive you to the brink of insanity to erode your reality. 

Some of Your Friends Don’t Like You

I’m not going to lie. There was once a time I felt like I had a couple of friends in my group that were gunning for me. I felt like they treated me worse than my own enemies sometimes. When I addressed it, they told me that I was being “sensitive” and they were only joking with me. However, my discernment told me to zero into those jokes a little closer because there was some true feelings in there. So, when a recent study in the scientific journal PLOS ONE revealed that only half of your friends are truly your friends, I was not shocked. With that being said, I am going to elaborate on things I've noticed about those “frenemies”. 

They Make Too Many “Jokes” At Your Expense

You would think that you are the honoree of a Comedy Central roast. They are constantly making fun of you, poking at your insecurities and have no regard for embarrassing you. You can walk into a room and they’ll say things like  “Girl, what the hell do you have on?” or they’ll comment on your weight, hair, or anything that will make you less sure of yourself. When you check them on it and tell them that they are going overboard, they shame you by calling you sensitive. They try to make you feel guilty for not being able to take a “joke”. Every security you ever told them will sure enough be apart of their comedy routine. 

You Don’t Attract Broken People Because You Have a Healing Spirit. You’re Just Accessible.

You may have seen the viral tweet that’s going around that says, “I attract broken people because I have a healing spirit”. It is said that we will interact with approximately 80,000 people in our lifetime. Unfortunately, a lot of those people are going to be broken. Reality is you’re going to meet many people with different problems, walks in life, and backgrounds. It is highly probable that those people are carrying internal issues. We may meet the same amount of broken people, but you may be more likely to develop relationships with them. Here’s why. 

Signs That He's Wasting Your Time

The world can suck sometimes. One of the things that sucks about it is that not everyone can or is willing to reciprocate your energy. You may have once believed or still believe that if you just stick around, prove how great you are, and how beneficial you are to someone’s happiness, they will eventually come around and be on the same page. Unfortunately, this isn’t an audition. So don’t let anyone play you into thinking that  what you have to offer or who you are now, is not worthy of commitment. They are wasting your time. Here are a few signs that are clear indications of that. 

7. The Communication Sucks 

You may think that they’re a bad texter because they are “Wyd”’ you to death. There is no depth in the conversation. It actually feels like pulling teeth to get them to have a real conversation with you. Texting is just a bunch of “checking in” with you.  The phone calls aren’t any better(if they even call you at all). The conversations are brief, lack substance and “I’ll call you back” is really a translation for “talk to you in a few days or whenever I feel like it”. Inconsistency is a major red flag. You don’t have to beg someone who is really interested in you to give you constant communication. I don’t care what the excuse is. Someone who really likes you can’t wait to talk to you. It brightens their day.